I’m going to lie to you. Don’t worry, it will be a little white lie. No real harm done, right? Ok, of course I’m not about to tell a lie. So what is a white lie, well, we have created an illusion of different levels of lying. If we tell a lie that prevents someone coming into harm either physically or emotionally, we consider it a ‘lie for their own good’ and see it as a favourable tactic. We tell these lies all the time to friends, partners, family, work colleagues and ourselves. We know they are lies, no matter the intended purpose. It may start out with a noble purpose, however, we have all been brainwashed into using terminology, which, makes lies we consider are for the greater good, to be different from, a complete untruth.
Little white lies are a fallacy, they are lies, nothing else. The lies we tell ourselves are the basis of our excuse system. They begin as small lies about why we can’t do a task or how we will concentrate on that goal tomorrow. These soon transform into excuses and become the basis of our fears. You know, those fears that keeps us stagnant and stops us progressing. All those goals we have – the quitting smoking, changing career, starting over, starting a business, learning a new skill etc. All our resistance is applied to prevent the uncomfortable feelings of stepping outside our comfort zone and it starts in the most subtle of ways. It starts with the lies we are telling ourself, which become the excuses we use as avoidance as we stay static.
How do we overcome these fears? It is by changing the language we use and saying, I’m lying or I lied without rationalising it. We have to make it harder to create the excuses. Admittedly, it is the start of the process, the beginning of a journey of honesty with our internal justification system. It will be new and difficult for many of us. Avoiding the use of word play such as; it’s just a little white lie; a simple lie; a small lie or any other descriptions. We have to invoke the desire within us and face our fears of change and progression. We already know most of our fears are irrational and of themselves, lies we have convinced ourself are true. However we inadvertently are promoting and incanting the building blocks of these fears when we use the wordplay. Luckily, we get to choose. Lies or the truth – only one will enable us to overcome our fears.
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